I have only given birth to Nelson after I married. Many of my relatives keep asking me to have a second baby girl. I hope to do so if all my problems had settled. I am a working woman, besides teaching, I need to do a lot of stuff at home.
*bath Nelson
* wash his bottle
*change his clothes
* wash his clothes
*prepare all the things when we are going out
*cooked porridge (sometimes)
*read him story
*play with him
* Change his pampers
*give medicine if he is sick
*coaxed him when he is not in the good mood
*advised him not to fight for toys with others
*wear the shoes for him
*extremely careful while crossing/walking in the road
*ask him drink plenty of water every moment
*teach him to be polite and well manner.
*rock him into sleep, aiyo, sometimes need about an hour to do this.
All the above can cause a woman to become an “Ah SAMP” soon. No time for manicure and pedicure. No time for facial. No time for hair treatment. No time for SPA.
So tired with all these. Should I employ a maid? But, I hate stranger to live with me. I don’t believe such maid to look after my son. Last, I don’t willing to look after the maid too. Even I am quite fed up with all these; sometimes I am happy to be along with Nelson.
Well, most of my aunty has 2 children in their family. They feel it’s not enough. They would like to make it 4-5 if they are still young.
Wow, 4-5 children? Sure I will be in the “Tanjung Rambutan”. I had thought over this question carefully. I strongly believe that what they said is correct. As an example, my parents have 4 children, but they are having their dinner alone every night at home. My mom-in-law who have 7 children also live alone in ‘kampung’ ( a small village) by herself. So, how about us if we only have 1-2 kids at home?
To Nelson, I think he needs a siblings I noticed that he is so selfish now. He can’t share things with others. Sometimes, he feels lonely and pity looked if I am busy with my works. I always tell him not to disturb me if I am busy. Sigh, what to do? If Nelson has a sister or a brother, sure he can discuss over his matters with them in the future.
The living standard in our country is so high nowadays. We need to do extra jobs to feed them because everything seems to cost an arm and leg. So, how many children we need to fit a family?
22 comments:
two should be enough :) but I love kids...the more the merrier, provided I can afford :(
2 is enough in this century...but if can afford, the more the best of coz
You literally took the words out of my mouth.
My husband and I do wonder sometimes how hectic life can be if we have another baby. There's only two of us taking care of them.
And of course, money issues. We want the best for our kids but darn, prices and inflation are getting so out of hand lately!
Hazel,
I have only one son and he's 16 now. I regretted not having more kids because I was selfish. It doesn't take much to feed nor clothe the kids.
I know education would take up a lot but with good planning, we could manage. I have never bought branded goods for my son and I don't succumb to the 'follow the crowd' mentality.
My son didn't have MP3, cellphone, computer nor PSP until last Christmas when my friends pity him and bought him these for Christmas presents.
I did have maids and they gave him lots of problems. It's best to look after our own kids but in order to make more, you need to contract out the child-caring. There are pros and cons but with good planning, we can have many wonderful kids.
sounds like my situation..everyone barking me to get no2...cannot far far gap, no good etc...etc...
You know yourself best...
4-5? i think i register in tanjung rambutan also. maybe can become monitor in the class there :P. but one too little la...at least make 2 la...got friend/sibling ma.. dun worry la the listthat u wrote is same list as mine, probly its time to talk to yr hub and ask him to take half of it? then no2 can come easily.
hi hazel.. i can understand what you mean eventho' i'm not married. i see my sis jaga her 11 mths old baby, i also pengsan already... and she's doing freelance work from home.
anyway, all the best to you! :)
from what i see around me, most have average 3kids.for me it's just nice.hubby keep on saying to have 3, you'll laugh at his reason- he said just ngam-ngam in the car.well, i try la if can but i would be happy with two or three. financial, yes it's expensive but i can as parents we will try our best to manage.good luck hazel! hope you have baby girl next
thanks for all the opinion and support me here.
good question...but really hard to answer this question, not becoz of im stil single, as it is complicated.
I still remember, in school time, there was a debate with title sound like "a family with more or less child better?" when A asked B "how many child is consider as many or less?" B answered "2 is many, 1 is less"...lolz
4 me, it is quite depend on a family background, economic status & etc. prefer at least 2, so the child wont be too lonely & have at least a partner to play around, accompany (s)he growth up happily & healthily.
Yes..it does get lonely if it's only one child..for me I would want 3 I think but different people have different perspective in life..whatever you feel is good for your family..
I am a proud mother of four amazing children! They are my world :0)
I was going to tag you with the link meme of 2008 but I see you already did it...no problem
take care
carrie
I can't even do manicure now..need to cook and do dishes everyday.But i love to have more kids if i can.
I am in awe of all monthers, whether they have one kid or ten.
I don't think there is one right answer for everyone. There is only the right answer for YOU.
In my case, for example, the answer is zero. :) But if all felt that way, there'd be no next generation!
Your child is adorable.
Hi Hazel,
The answer to your question depends on how well you can tackle the dual role of both mother and breadwinner of your family. You will be the one to decide if ever you will add to your lone child now. Suffice it to say that parents must think of the future of their children and give them the best future they could ever have. Use this as your reason for adding another child to your brood.
Hazel,
Two is just ngam ngam... Both can play and when they grow up, they have each other. One is just not enough leh...
Are you telling us you are expecting a new arrival? If so, congrats Hazel.
It depends on individual's family planning. As for me, I'm vy lucky to be blessed with a girl n a boy. So that's enuff for us... for now. :)
These days, I believe 2 is enough. If you get a boy and a girl, then lagi bagus :D
I have 2 boys (9 years and 13 years). And my hands are full... I've wondered how my mom managed with 5 girls...
But it's nice to have many siblings... very merry whenever there are gatherings :D
First time dropping by here.... I wondered also about it, i have 1 daughter... and still not sure about second child. Have a nice day.
Hazel, the average is 2 1/2 if we want to achieve the desired population in Malaysia, that means 3 but it's all up to you. Each family has different perspective. I have 3 and I'm comfortable with that.
Hi Hazel,
TQ for visiting my blog sometimes back and sorry only now I have the time to blog hopping again. Your this post topic is interesting.
Understand that the cost of living here is high but with 2 kids in the family is too little. I have 2 kids but at the current moment we can't afford to have another one but my target is to have 3 kids to fit my family. So got to work hard to earn more money eh. hahaha...
true true, i am constantly thinking if i should be having another kid with the view of the lack of quality time
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